It's not you, it's me. No, really.

Tonight was the womens broadcast at church. As I was on my way there, I was thinking about 2 friendships I have of friends that are very dear to me, and how I was wishing that our friendships were as close now as they had been in the past. I began to think of things that those friends were doing that I felt were hampering our friendship, and then the thought crossed my mind "perhaps, just maybe, it's not them that's the problem..." And I immediately felt guilty that I had even put the blame on them to begin with.

Then, somewhat interestingly, President Monson's talk tonight was not judging others. He told a story of a woman who moved to a neighborhood, and every time her neighbor hung her laundry out to dry she would complain to her husband how poorly the neighbor washed her clothes, and how dirty they always looked. One morning over breakfast as the neighbor hung up her clothes she said "Oh my!! Look, she finally learned to get her clothes really clean!! I wonder how she finally figured it out?". Her husband said "Well, I think I can tell you, I woke up early and washed our windows this morning".

So President Monson was saying we need to avoid judging others, because to some extent or another we are always looking out dirty windows. We can never fully see their circumstances, or know what all is going on in their life. It was a reminder I needed.

Some other things that stood out to me tonight:
RS Motto is Charity Never Faileth. Charity is the opposite of judgment, it is tolerant, patient, sympathetic, compassionate and merciful. It gives attention to those that are unnoticed, and is patient with someone who has let us down, and refuses to be offended easily.
We study history because it helps us learn what we are to do, and it changes us. It can give us definition in this world
We must be careful not to spend our labor for that which can not satisfy

Those are just a couple things, the meeting tonight was fabulous, and I feel like I have been spiritually lifted. I hope I can become more charitable and loving in all my interactions.